escort diary® of Billie B: Better late than never
It’s hard to describe myself as introverted, while being someone who loves to talk; learn and engulf myself in good company with good people.
I’ve never been one who could just “be concise”.
Words are so much more. Interpretation, context, personal views, biases and even environmental factors can, and will tie into whether the words read are understood how intended by the author. Perhaps I can simply attribute the depth of this fixation of mine, to the neurodiverse nature of my brain. Perhaps not.
Either way, while I don’t take responsibility for every single person who reads my words to understand exactly what I mean; as that would be crazy – I do still try to be transparent, and be accommodating to learn and tweak things as I go.
I really just try to write how I would say it in person, minus a few silly quirks where I’m being nonsensical and very grammatically incorrect.
It can be taxing to put so much of myself into my words, each and every time – only for my efforts to be wasted in the form of being strung along, ghosted or treated as a kink dispenser. /sigh/
I’m a no nonsense person, with little patience for rude people or those out looking to cause, or be trouble.
In 2025, while I was in the Sugar Dating bowl, more and more I found difficulties with being understood correctly. I’ve done my best to work on my communication, because of course – I’m the common denominator, right? Not entirely. As with most things, it usually takes two.
I know I can be a lot, intimidating and/or off putting to some. I will always be okay with this, as I respect the autonomy of others’ having conflicting opinions about myself.
I do know my worth, my value, my skills and that certain niches will always exist. I make no grand gestures to force my views upon others, as I am firm and selective on who to be around.
Part of this, is an aspect to my safety of course. However, I want to make sure that the type of people I attract can see, and take my word for authenticity and follow through.
There is nothing inherently bad with having differing views; though how you speak, act and support said views will be clear for me to see and form my own connections of your character. I dislike getting bogged down in labels and definitions, however this is the crux of what I mean. If you aren’t talking about the same thing with the same definition, meaning or understanding – then how can you possibly have a constructive conversation?
I’m doing my best to articulate my words carefully, with intent and hopefully personality with it.
I suck at performing. I suck at videos, social media algorithms. I hate rage-bait, and clickbait media. I was literally raised with the “stranger danger” warnings of the internet and I took it seriously to the T. Fast forward to the beginning of 2016-2019 era where technology, social media, viral trends started to kick off and then there’s me. I was moving from a rural town (2 [two] ish hours drive from Brisbane) to “civilisation” of Toowoomba city, and then still another several years until I was able to relocate to Brisbane.
Annnnnnnnd now I feel like the characterisation of a boomer, as I feel out of my depth for experience, community, skills and even confidence.
Yeah, yeah I pulled myself up by my bootstraps, as they used to say. All this to say, is I have had a lot to learn, without a lot of guidance.
Finding myself, my niche of skill and the willingness to reach for it has been amazing.
Acceptance for my hypersexuality, and making it work for me. I know what I want and I seek it out.
I’ve written the template and booking requirements to approach me and talk further with the prepared intent of a punter being like:
“hey, this page is really detailed… and OH LOOK – she has a template on how to approach and ask!”
Quite literally, everyone is different. If you put in the effort to read a profile, yes of course these days you run the legitimate risk of AI reliance, scam profiles and just dodgy folk. Life will always present you with options of how to spend your energy. It is up to you on making the decisions that will benefit you; not just in the moment, but also in the long term. It is on the punter to keep up with the appropriate skills to protect yourself these days. Even in everyday life you have to be diligent, and aware of scams.
It’s alright to be picky with seeking an escort or other companion. It’s alright to have specific desires, fantasies or scenes. It’s alright to have had a specific request on the shelf for years. What’s not alright, is demanding, manipulating or otherwise expecting anyone or everyone to adhere to your demands, which may or may not be presented “respectfully”. Remember how I said everyone is different? It can sometimes bite you in the butt to make and apply same assumptions/expectations upon various people.
Adaptation, tweaking, understanding and growth are how you improve the query and are able to maintain your search with genuine respect.
I want to re-iterate that no of course I don’t guarantee that every specific possibility can be met. Generally speaking (and begrudgingly assuming), surely any super specific kink/request/desire that an individual is seeking; would be doing diligent research, preparation or otherwise efforts to seek out a compatible connection?
Expecting any and all escort/providers to cater to your specific kink/request/desire sounds to be a genuine waste of time and energy for all parties involved.
The difference of attitudes, lack of courtesy and bare minimum neutral language is pretty startling. It can be hard to break away from what everyone else is doing, and going with societal bullcrap. We all have it in us to just do better. Small actions, consistently over time reinforce habits, attitudes and default actions.
We are all just people. Approaching and conversing with mutual respect while feeling horny; and all you can think of is doing the deed, is possible.
I’m much more receptive to 1. having my instructions followed (always happy to answer further genuine clarifying questions) 2. Being spoken to with mutual respect and courtesy. That’s it. Not too much to ask for as a starting point.
Being civil, neutral and polite should not be a difficult baseline. There is a lot of greed, hate and malicious behaviour in people. Are there really that many folk out there that get off on being rude, nasty, and dangerous to escorts and other sex providers? I don’t expect perfection, ever. However, what is expected is ownership, accountability and follow through. I just try to be a good person, help others where I can, and to do my best to better those around me, and the world I walk on.
A bit “woo woo” sure. Call me crazy if you vehemently disagree with me here. That’s alright, I can accept that. I don’t have to prove it to you, nor drill it into your heads. You can take me or leave me.
Lately I’ve decided I want to write more, so keep an eye out for more to come. Thank you for reading what is possibly a very weird introduction, but I’d be lying if I said I wasn’t proud of my quirks.
BB xx
